Soooo…I cut my hair again.
Even though I’d been dreaming of long hair Gisele Bündchening down my back. I was almost there.
I really struggled to get to that point, too. Even though the growing out period doesn’t bother me that much, since I like random lengths. And even though no matter what I do, I still prefer how I look with my hair pulled back, I kept telling myself I just needed to get to that ideal length for it to really look good.
For one thing, let’s be honest in this wonderfully feminist time – I really grew my hair out just to please Chris. And guys – let’s not even try to figure out what cliche, Freudian reason, or Gisele Bündchen got into them, but a lot of the time, guys seem to prefer long hair.
I’d even go so far as to suggest a theory: they love short hair at first, because it makes us look free, different, and a little wild – but once we’re with them, I don’t know – long hair reassures them?
Anyway, I’m getting off the subject.
My hair was finally getting to the minimum length I was hoping for – to the top of my back, and it was long enough to do a very high bun (my favorite kind).
But then I started to try leaving it down, and that’s when the reason I cut it, what, 6 years ago? came flooding back to me.
Nothing had changed – not my facial structure (keeping my hair away from my face works better for me), not my hair (super dry ends with a tendency toward oily roots, super curly one day, super straight the next, and a completely different texture depending on the weather) (oh, and on top of it all, I have a little smattering of grays to drive me extra crazy now), not my laziness (I’m just never going to be the girl who spends a ton of time styling her hair).
As for dry shampoo, I don’t know how all my friends who love it do it, but when I use it, I feel like a bag of damp flour has been dumped on my head.
So I started thinking fondly of all my years with short hair, the years when I forgot what a bad hair day was, when I was getting compliments on my hair every day, and I didn’t need a hair stylist even when I was attending a gala. So I talked to Chris about all this and I think we’ve probably gotten to a point in our relationship where it’s fine, he’s reassured, (or he doesn’t care haha!) because he just said: “Whatever makes you happy.”
So I called Clyde, the one who came up with my short cut in the first place, to ask him if he knew someone good in LA, and he said “Me! I’m coming to LA next weekend, I’ll cut your hair for you.”
And he added: “It’s good to change things up, but I always thought short hair looked really good on you…”
Gah! So here we go again.
I wanted it short, but not quite as short as before. I’d kept a bunch of photos I loved of Laetitia Casta during her short hair period in my photo album.
So Clyde came, we cut it all off, and we even colored it, and…pheew, I didn’t regret it for a second. But the interesting thing is – listen carefully if you’re thinking of cutting your hair – it takes a few phases to find the exact cut.
For example, in the photo, that was the first phase of the cut. It’s not bad, but for me, it was too long in the back, and I didn’t feel like having the same long bangs I had before. I kept it that way for a while, about a month, but then when I went back to New York at the end of September, I reworked the idea a bit to give it a little more structure.
We also did a keratin treatment to make my curls more manageable, which made my hair a little too straight at first – but every day the texture gets a little closer to the way I like it.
So, in short – a nice haircut can honestly be life changing, but you shouldn’t hesitate to try out different things over a few months to figure out what the ideal length and color is for you.
So there you go! I’m really happy with it! What do you all think?
Translated by Andrea Perdue
Thank you to Clyde and Mirko from The Drawing Room!