The thought of having a twin has always intrigued me.
Would it be “The Parent Trap” come true? Maybe we would swap identities and have crazy adventures?! It could be amazing, to have someone so in tune with you. Or it could be a daunting thing, to have a mirror to yourself — and learn to be so completely accepting of who you are?! Ok, end rant.
I had friends growing up who are twins. They went through all of the hormonal phases we all did, but times ten. They were constantly striving for individuality against one another. They got crazy haircuts, tattoos, hated each other’s favorite things. But, in the end, the more they accepted their similarities, the more they seemed to become their own selves.
Life is weird like that.
Anyway, I thought of them when G first mentioned Crissy and Kimmy, who are great moms and inspiring yogis (I love love yoga) — and twins, split from the same egg ;) Finally, a chance to look a little closer at what it’s like to not only be a twin but to share such a strong passion. And maintain that from other sides of the country…
Having an identical twin both magnifies your similarities and polarizes your differences. It’s empowering and humbling to have someone who looks exactly like you.
“We have always had each other. Having an identical twin both magnifies your similarities and polarizes your differences. It’s empowering and humbling to have someone who looks exactly like you. As young adults, we learned the hard way to stand strong on our own and do our best to develop our own unique individuality, but we always feel more brave as a team. Our individual strengths fill in for the other’s weaknesses.
We both studied ballet as children, then we began practicing Yoga while in college, fell in love with it, and have been doing it ever since. Going to classes became a special time we shared as sisters. We then both started families and moved to different cities; Crissy in New York and Kimmy in coastal Alabama.
Nigel, Crissy’s husband, is a photographer and took some photos of us doing yoga once when our families were together. He suggested we start an Instagram account, which is really more of a dialogue between the two of us — something we can share even though we live apart.
We really try to support each other in daily struggles. Being a mom, caring for our families. We’re also friends. So what we take from the yoga we practice is a reminder for each other to breathe. Yoga helps us, physically and mentally, to be flexible to the world around us. You don’t necessarily need a twin to feel that sacred bond, love is the connection holding us all together.”
You don’t necessarily need a twin to feel that sacred bond, love is the connection holding us all together.
It is very easy to get caught up in your image when posting it out to the digital world. Especially when you are twisted into a crazy yoga pose.
What’s the funniest memory you have of each other growing up?
We have two distinctive beauty marks on our faces that everyone used to tell us apart. When we were three years old my father covered them both with concealer and then drew on new beauty marks on us, switching them. He set us loose on our poor grandparents who spent hours calling us by the wrong name. We all laughed our heads off when my father revealed his trick!!
Have you ever seen the competitive side come out against one another, even when you were younger?
We have competed in sports, but always played on the same team. We did castings together as models and both were up of the same jobs on a constant basis. We never got upset or competitive with each other. I’m sure there were times when we were disappointed that one was picked over the other, but we never took that out on each other.
As models, what was it like being twins and dealing with an industry that was so image-focused?
It was very humbling to have someone who looked exactly like you in an image based industry. It made us more down to earth and not to take rejection so personally as it did with the other girls. When you share your image with someone, your can’t define yourself by it.
Do you ever feel that image pressure now, maybe through your Instagram and trying to publish the perfect photo?
It is very easy to get caught up in your image when posting it out to the digital world. Especially when you are twisted into a crazy yoga pose. We try not to over produce the images we post and keep them as natural and spontaneous as possible. We try to have a theme to our images, so when one posts a shot, the other one will run out and do their version of it. Again, we don’t compete yet inspire each other.
Was it ever hard when it felt like one of you was ahead of the other in some way?
When one of us is ahead it really just gives the other one a reason to better their game. We were different heights for many years growing up, and it made the other one eat more healthy food to grow. When one of us became a mother before the other one, it gave them the initiative to start a family of their own. When you are a twin it brings on constant comparisons, but that always came from the outside. We don’t measure ourselves against one another, but rather inspire and encourage each other.
How was it when you moved away from one another, what did that feel like?
It was very hard when we moved far apart from each other. The hardest thing is our children not being able to see each other more often and sharing in those moments when they were little. We are on the phone 3 times a day so we are very connected despite the distance.
You say you were never alone, but did you ever feel distinctly separated?
We have felt separated by distance and obligations. A difficult time was when we moved out of our shared apartment when the first one got married. It was a hard time because we were redefining our relationship. When we entered the stage of getting married, we were shifting the dynamics of it being just the two of us.
Is being a twin something completely different to having a normal sibling, or a friend?
Being a twin is a very unique relationship. We have never known anything else, but when you share the exact same genetic makeup with someone, you experience things together in a different way.
We have never known anything else, but when you share the exact same genetic makeup with someone, you experience things together in a different way.
Any twins out there with a similar or different take on what it’s been like?
Or non-twins, like me, who always wondered…?