The first time I attended a tea ceremony, I was with Shiva, and I had absolutely no idea what I was getting myself into. When she said come by, I’m doing a tea ceremony, I said yes, because I say yes to everything, but I had no idea.
I had no idea we wouldn’t speak.
Or that every gesture would be graceful, thoughtful, intentional.
Or how long it would last.
I stayed seated, following my silent guide as she spoke to me with her eyes.
It was beautiful and bizarre, and I’ve done it many times since then, always feeling a little bit out of place, but deeply appreciating the beauty of the moment.
So, when Stephanie told me Mia Maestro would be hosting a ceremony at Co’s Schindler House, I immediately wanted to go.
I think without even realizing it, I’d fallen in love with this intriguing practice.
When Stephanie was on my podcast, she talked about discovering spirituality and how she integrates those teachings into the philosophy of her brand, Co.
And that was made clear with this little gathering — nothing was commercial, everyone came in their own clothes, and there was nothing being marketed or promoted.
It was just about being together and sharing a moment.
I like that idea of blending career and the art of living. Fashion made a lot of us cynical, myself included. We forgot things could be done with passion and integrity.
They say it’s a form of meditation, but to me it’s mostly a way of being — sitting in silence with others, which is something I never knew how to do. I’m more the type who likes to fill up space. I’d have no trouble talking to a prison door.
Recently I was in the desert, on a walk with friends, when suddenly my friend Magda suggested we take a moment of silence. To listen to nature.
I swear, I found that so courageous. And very beautiful. And it made me want to do it more often.
A tea ceremony is more than just silence. It’s an ancestral practice used by monks. I can’t say much more about it other than what I felt, and show you a few photos.
I think it’s beautiful when a fashion brand takes us into a world that finds the beauty in empty space. It’s very symbolic of my perspective on fashion today.